You Can WIN Your New Years Resolution! Here’s HOW.
It’s that time of year again to start thinking about your New Year’s Resolution. With the start of a new year, there is no better time to look forward into your future and make big plans. It’s a new beginning to a new year, a fresh start.
Like most people you’ll get all excited and think about all the weight you’re going to lose, the great parent you’re going to be, the big money you’re going to make with your new business idea, and all the other amazing things you want to do. It’s exciting to dream about a better future. It’s fun to look forward into all the wonderful things you can do with your life and then resolve to make them happen.
Unfortunately, like most people – you will fail! This may sound harsh, but the odds are against you. It’s commonly said that over 92% of New Year’s Resolutions fail!
So why do so many people fail in their quest for a better life?
The #1 reason people fail in their New Year’s Resolution has to do with this one thing: Insanity!
Everyone’s probably heard someone say, “people are crazy!” Well, when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions – they might very well be.
Here’s why –
A New Year’s Resolution is a safe way of asking for a CHANGE in your life. The safety comes in the fact that “everyone is doing it” and the common knowledge that very few people actually follow through. This gives you an easy out when the going gets tough and you quit. Let’s face it – a New Year’s Resolution is often wishy-washy. But why is this so insane?
It’s insane because you probably really want these changes. You probably really want to drop the weight or get in better shape but use this half hearted gesture to test the water. But this testing of the water is actually more damaging than you might realize – it sets a standard of failure for future efforts to making major changes in your life.
The urban definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Let me repeat that – it is absolutely insane to think that you can do the same thing you did last year and the year before that, and expect a different result.
You are exactly where you are because of what you have done and what you do now each and every day!
And your kid is exactly where he/she is because of all they do and don’t do everyday. It’s hard sometimes, but most often your kid is a direct reflection of you. They will follow your lead!
You say you want to lose weight but still hit that fast food drive thru. You say you want to spend more time helping your kids but plop down in front of the tv. You say you want your kid to do more soccer practices and soccer skills in your back yard but don’t go outside with them. You say you want more and better but constantly come up short.
CHANGE is hard and cannot be taken lightly. We want the big result and often skip straight to envisioning that result in our head – setting goals and dream, even writing them down. But too often we stop our goal planning short when only defining the result. If you stop there – you are doomed.
This is where the failure lies. We start out with a few changes and want the instant result that we wrote down. Then life hits you and things get hard. It doesn’t come fast and your realize you’ve got a lot of work to do. That workout that is required in order for you to get the weight loss you want is skipped because you’re sore or don’t have time. Too often we begin to skip the daily tasks of working towards our goals and dreams and the change we wanted is forfeited. The failure to win on a daily basis corrodes our ability to change. Remember that little actions done with consistency count big!
If you want Big change there is a solution – and that solution is in your habits. If you want big change you’ve got to keep drilling down in your goal planning until you reach daily activities – daily to do’s that you can stick with and be disciplined in. Start with the result that you want (your New Year’s Resolution) then ask a very simple question, “What will it take to make that happen?”
Start with your Big goal and then get smaller from there. Keep working on your plan and set a 1 month goal, then a weekly goal, then a daily goal. These daily goals become the tasks that you MUST do each and every day.
As long as your plan is good – once you can successfully accomplish each daily goal then you will get the results you want. Keep doing it over and over again until success on a daily level is a habit. When your daily goals become HABITS you will succeed. And know that it’s ok if you need help! Don’t be afraid to seek out resources to help you succeed. Teamwork makes the dream work- I know you’ve heard that one before. You don’t have to go it alone!
You can succeed in your New Year’s Resolution but you need to arm yourself with better tools than you had last year. Avoid the trap of repeating the same mistakes and shortcomings from the past. Don’t go into the New Year with the failures of last year – decide to learn from them and leave them behind.
Decide that this year is going to be your year and then reach out to live your biggest goals and dreams.
Dream Big and get your shoes dirty!
Happy New Years!