Training Your Inner Conversation

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.  A difficulty comes up or life is just being hard, and instantly we begin to run through all the problems in our head.  Our inner conversation explores all our biggest fears and our day is instantly shot.  This may sound extreme and you might be thinking that it’s never that bad for me – but even the little struggles often have a very similar effect on us.  But it doesn’t have to be this way.  By training your inner conversation, you can move from being stuck dwelling on the problem to learning to focus on solutions – and this simple trick will transform your day.

Here are some ideas to help in training your inner conversation:

1.  Understand the power of your words.  Words are important!  If you are constantly putting yourself down, you might not stand a chance.  Start by being kind to yourself.  Pay attention to the words you use.  Start with understanding and being very selective in your word choice.

2.  Know what you can and can’t control.  There are some things you can control, and others you can’t.  Make sure you know the difference and be able to evaluate the circumstances.  This might be hard at times, but fight through the blame and try to get the whole picture.

3.  When you’re in a hole – stop digging!  Be realistic with your situation.  Try to identify the root cause of the problem and find ways to stop it.  Many times this requires being really honest with yourself.

4.  Decide your valuable.  It’s easy to put the blame on and feel guilty.  Don’t let this become your opinion of yourself.  Make sure you know that you’re valuable!  People need you and although there might be some problem or struggle now, you can and will get through it.

5.  Adopt solution based thinking.  Every time we make an excuse or blame someone else or even blame ourselves, that means we are still looking at the problem.  Get past the problem and start looking at solutions.  Get your focus off the issue that “was” and move on to the solution that “will be”.  Learn to find solutions instead of problems.

Training your inner conversation can be difficult, but it is possible – and can change your life!  There is this little saying, “What you think about comes about.”  Just think about it for a second.  A cake is the result of the ingredients.  It can only be as good as the recipe and all the stuff that goes into it.  If you put bad things into that cake – you’re gonna have a bad cake.  You are the same way!  If you’re constantly bad to yourself, then you’re gonna have a bad and miserable day.

Focus on training your inner conversation to put good into your day.  Look for solutions instead of problems.  Start to build a habit of seeking solutions with little problems and work your way up to the big ones.  Before long this habit will have you flying through the day, smiling, and crushing life.

Set up your Environment for Success

One of the best things you can do to get started in being successful – or keep you going strong – is to set up your environment in advance. This isn’t hard to do and the payoff is big.

Setting up your environment for success is easy to do and is a powerful step succeeding. Think about it this way. If for example you are wanting to read each night before you go to bed, then you would set up that environment by simply putting your book by your bedside. And you’re done – see how easy that was! Setting up your environment for almost anything else can be just as easy.

To set up your environment for success follow these tips:

1. Decide what you want to be doing. What is it that you are wanting to accomplish?

2. Make a list of what you need – write it down. Bullet point the items, don’t make a paragraph or a story out of it. You will want something easy to look at.

3. Get what you need! Ok so you’ve made the decision – you’ve made the list – now make the effort! Simply follow through on the list and get everything set up.

Remember that this list doesn’t need to be perfect. You can add to it or take stuff off it as you go.

Setting up your environment in advance is extremely powerful. Among the many things that it does for you, is the simple fact that these items become visual reminders of your goals. By having them out they are a reminder for you to do the work. It strips away excuses and helps you to put your best foot forward to take action towards your dreams. The easier you can make getting it done – the better!!!

Having everything ready to go will do wonders to get you started faster and easier. So plan today to set up your environment for success.

4 Tips to Making your Priorities Count

What are your priorities? Do they line up with who you want to be – what you want to do, accomplish, learn, and have? Although this seems like a simple exercise of just writing down our desires, defining your true priorities is not always as simple as it appears. If you want real impact in your life it will be important to make your priorities count.

Priorities are difficult because, just like expectations, they can be discovered in real time.

“Action expresses priorities.” – Gandhi.

The problem with this is when our actions don’t match up with what we have decided are priorities in our life. Say for example, you have decided that your health is a priority – something we all should do – but turn around and eat fast food and junk food multiple times during the week out of convenience. See your actions are showing that convenience is the priority and your health is not. So how do we set priorities and make them count?

Here are 4 tips to defining your priorities and making them count:

1. Make sure you are being honest with yourself. Evaluate your current actions. Look at what you are doing – yes! what you are actually doing and logically define where that will get you. Having a realistic approach to defining your priorities will help give you a starting point and help determine some changes you may need to make.

2. Find your passion. What do you love to do? What are you passionate about? It is so much easier to do what you love. Spend a little time to write down the things you love. These are the things that drive you. They are the things that get you out of the bed in the morning. Make your passions your priorities, you will find that it is very easy to be disciplined in them.

3. Willing to work? Ok let’s play with this one a little… If you want it to work – you’ve got to be willing to work! Do you love it? I hope so! Ok I know it’s a little cheesy, but seriously. If you’re gonna set something as a priority you’ve gotta be willing to earn it. You’ve gotta be willing to trade sweat, time, money, and a whole bunch of other stuff for it.

4. Be disciplined. This is final part of priorities. You’ve gotta stay disciplined. It is the most important part about making your priorities count.